rmataafa
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To those in SOF (and to those outside it where applicable) with children and have managed to keep their marriage strong, could you speak any to how you have managed to build healthy attachment to your children (or haven't) and some of the realities of that while being gone all the time? I have spoken to one individual in 5th group (I am considering 18x) and he basically said "it's doable, but you're gonna sacrifice time and emotion with your family" which is what I am inferring. But this was only one guy and his response seemed to be pretty optimistic in contrast to what most of google threads and youtube vids have resulted. My question is, for those who have had any kids grow up some and their opinion on how their sacrifice has impacted their kids. This is not a question for educational research, but more so for my wife and I to consider. To clarify -
1: how did you build healthy attachment to kids?
2: How did your sacrifice impact your kids later on in life?
Unsure if I should include my reasoning behind my question here without referring to my introduction post since it may shed clarity. I may also be missing threads addressing this exact issue, but the search brought back little result on this forum. I realize this may elicit vulnerable/personal information so I appreciate any and all response.
1: how did you build healthy attachment to kids?
2: How did your sacrifice impact your kids later on in life?
Unsure if I should include my reasoning behind my question here without referring to my introduction post since it may shed clarity. I may also be missing threads addressing this exact issue, but the search brought back little result on this forum. I realize this may elicit vulnerable/personal information so I appreciate any and all response.