Most people who want to join the military have some desire to become a part of the elite, or the 1% of their prospective branch of service. However, what no one will tell you is what your actual cost will be. For me, it cost me my wife. On my quest for the next t-shirt or piece of chest candy I completely forgot what was truly the most important thing in my life, and now that has come to an end. I should have listened to her when she asked me to find local work and to not keep traveling on my pursuit to measure my grit or merit; however, I’d look at her and tell her this will be good for us or this can help me get a better job later down the road. When in reality, it drove the void to a point where it is practically irreversible. So now, I have a closet of t-shirts and hoodies, a wall full of class pictures and graduate certificates, a uniform with chest candy, but no best friend to share my accomplishments with. Just make sure you are willing to pay the piper whether it be the cost of your relationship, family, friends, etc. before you try out for your perspective brotherhood.
For all of you hopefuls out there
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Sorry to hear that, I came really close and am still close to that cliff edge.
Shoot me a PM if you want to talk.
Shoot me a PM if you want to talk.
Ritter, your story makes me sad.
Deja vu.
Fuck.
Deja vu.
Fuck.
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Part of why I'm divorcing, at the risk of sounding selfish, is because I knew my ex would not fully support me and my journeys.
Biggest advice I can tell people is to be open and up front about what you want to do and what it could potentially do to your relationship.
I'd definitely buy you a beer or shot of whiskey.
Biggest advice I can tell people is to be open and up front about what you want to do and what it could potentially do to your relationship.
I'd definitely buy you a beer or shot of whiskey.
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Dude I am sorry. Reach out if you need to.
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I am very sorry to hear that your marriage ended in divorce. Something that you do have now, is wisdom, and insight. Both will be of great value to you when, and if you decide to marry again, and for those you will mentor in the future. Give a shout if you need and ear.
I guess I can consider myself the lucky one, finding moral and cardiovascular ineptitude prior to matrimonial plans coming to fruition.
Truth be told, there are those here that followed the path that retained affection and attention, only to be abandoned later by the same object.
Truth be told, there are those here that followed the path that retained affection and attention, only to be abandoned later by the same object.
Let me start by saying I have an ex, and came really close to having a second ex.
That said, I have to ask you a question, would you be happy doing something else? Being married and being miserable (BTDT) sucks just as much as a divorce.
If not, then don't beat yourself up. I've had many co-workers and friends give up their passion "to save the marriage" only to see the marriage dissolve a few years later. Seems to many women want to date/marry the cool guy without understanding the commitment that both parties have to make to the marriage and career.
Good luck, I'll PM you on Monday with some info you'll need.
Hang in there bro. You know where to find us...
M.
M.
Been on that train..... I wish I would have kept the career instead of the cheating woman.
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I'm sorry it didn't work out with Mrs Ritterk but I strongly disagree with this part of your post.
Bro... my first wife was a hard core civilian/fashionista.... she had no clue why I was SF, she didn't want to know, in her mind having a boyfriend/husband who was a "Green Beret" was cool. I later learned that in her bipolar mind, it also heightened the highs she got from cheating by infusing some extra danger to her partners and to her.
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