swimr235
Verified Military
My advice is dig deep in your noodle and figure out exactly what you want...meaning where do you want to be in 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years and where you'd like to be at the end of your career. Your ex is just that, your ex...if you have issues with her concerning your child you need to iron all this out before you make any decisions. Also, due to the fact that she and all her family are now tied to you forever due to the kid you need to sit her down and tell her what you're doing. Im with my wife for 7 yrs and have an amazing 5 month old. I tell her everything that she needs to know to make my life easy...some details, and you will learn this, are not necessary to divulge but its not because you want to keep things from her, its because they wont effect the outcome of whats going to happen. Make your short term and long term goals, write them down, research everything...once you've exhausted that...ask local mentors...or recruiters...dont just talk to one...talk to all of them. Some are more willing than others to help and some know more than others. Once you decide keep your eye on the prize and while raising a future a spartan hold your values strong. Dont be forced into a decision you arent sure of. Always, always, always think it through, visualize because in end it never quite works out exactly as you planned...this could be either good or bad, but you need to accept that fact and you need to prepare yourself for things, as many things as possible and then come up with contingencies. Just my .02...
