We seem to be missing the fact that region currently called Afghanistan has been the crux of tribal/internicene warfare for about thousands of years. Russia, France, England, Turkey, The Mongols, even Alexander could not subdue the area for any period of time. The Kush is steeped in the practical knowledge of conducting an insurgency - be it local, tribal, regional or larger...
How do we teach the majority of our soldiers and leaders the myriad tribal/clan mindsets, how do we place them into the situation so that they understand the constantly switching dynamic in the low level political dealings that lead to the larger shapeshifiting politics of the region - allegiances chane - almost on a daily basis - and these allegiances change based on things as basic as the Maslow heirarchy of needs - shelter, food, clothing, protection.... We are trying to introduce Western thought into a region that needs people sent in that understand the thinking currently (albeit, in our view medieval) in control of the region.
A Low Intensity Conflict / UW/FID Mission should be the base for COIN in Afghanistan - it will take years/ decades... there is no quick fix, no immediate change, no magic pill to erase thousands of years of self protection in the form of clan/tribal politics and warfare that is now fueled by outside groups who look, speak, act and believe very similarly to the indigineous people.
Technology may not always win over the will of the people - these guys are fighting for their homes, and are being supported by people more similar to them than us, maybe we need to focus on getting inside, and starting some change there, instead of from the outside. Not to say the internal and external forces driving the 'jihad' should be ignored, but a two pronged attack could be more effective.
Sorry - but even to me this sounds like a basic lecture of the political significance of the capabilities of US Army Special Forces.
I'll shut up now.