With all due respect he never said he was married (and if he was, then I wouldn't have commented on his situation) and me and my GF (we are a serious couple we have been together for pretty much our whole lives as we were childhood friends) we had a moment similar to this. I didn't want to type all this because my device is hard to type on. She wanted to be a USCG Rescue Swimmer. And I want to serve in a SOF medical role. And we talked it out and it was determined that I will join and she wouldn't. If I couldn't join then she would. Again sorry if I sound rude or disrespectful, I have all the respect possible for you men and women on here. And anyway I laid it out in a similar way, and it resolved our problem I figured if it worked for us, it might work for him. Hate to say it for a third time, but just so it's made very clear, I have all the respect possible for you men and women and hope to in the future gain knowledge and engage in conversation with everyone here. So I apologize if this sounds rude or disrespectful, but two well respected members have liked my comment.