Peace to your brother
@Marauder06, and to you as well. Been that spot and loss of family hurts like nothing.
Hope you are taking care of you.
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To topic, VA therapy may suck balls, but vet centers may have useful non-VA linked contacts.
Outside of that, therapists working with first responders are usually good resource even for vets, leave out a lot of hassle that some formally working with vets fellas were trained with, add compassion grounded in real world skills.
Peer support is also excellent, just careful reaching out to at the time one is barely holding up, too depressed and just mad at / fed up with everything, in states one word wrong pushes a guy over the ledge? Yeah, better take it to the pros who hear the unsaid despair right, than talk to buddies who may not exactly know.
Unless they're the kind of trained deep in psych buddies, as it's the nature of the job or they just went that education path on their own... by all means, if shit's hitting the fan, chat those up.
And yeah. Nothing that went wrong in life, done or done to or not done or wished for and couldn't do, is worth one's life. Nothing.
Depression lies, tragic lives turn about at some point, just don't fade to black when it's dark.
... and I swear I done with the long noodle on things I'm passionate as fuck about and will distribute brownies around from now on, instead. ;) And other yummies, for those y'all diabetic.