The types of people we're talking about aren't from the profession. They don't know anything about us or what our norms and rules are. They are ignorant about our ways, and that's not necessarily their fault. The fact that they want to serve at all sets them apart from the rest of America, IMO. When someone new comes to our site and act in a way we find inappropriate or unsavory, I usually try a gentle nudge and helpful suggestions first. If that doesn't work THEN there's a smackdown, usually by multiple parties.
Sometimes I get the sense that some members sometimes want to show what bad asses they are by crushing some newb's nuts here on the site. I have a lot more respect for members who will take the time to try to help a newcomer, maybe even by PM, to get them to adjust to our ways. I recognize the value of tough love and of immediate negative feedback, but I think that if someone doesn't understand us or our standards, we should try to help them understand in a positive way first before going all Negan on them.
Frankly, I have a lot less patience with people who *are* in the profession and want to come here and act the fool. They normally get a pretty bad beat down from the staff and multiple site members. They deserve our disdain more than someone who's young and dumb, IMO.