Devildoc
Verified Military
My dad died when I was 8. My mom was a shitty mom for a bunch of reasons, but she did her best. She did not know how to use 'escalating' discipline: for just about any fraction minor or major, she'd beat the shit out of me. Shoe, belt, switch, hand, whatever. And always out of anger.
I have spanked my kids, but not a lot, and never when I was angry. I would always let the anger dissipate, tell my kids why I was spanking, help them see the errors of their ways, said a prayer with them, did the deed and moved on. I have also engaged in other forms of discipline which would get parents in trouble: washing mouth out with soap and burpees the most egregious.
I think you can spank/hit without turning it into a beat-down. Or not (hit, at all). I think there is more than one way to skin that cat.
I have spanked my kids, but not a lot, and never when I was angry. I would always let the anger dissipate, tell my kids why I was spanking, help them see the errors of their ways, said a prayer with them, did the deed and moved on. I have also engaged in other forms of discipline which would get parents in trouble: washing mouth out with soap and burpees the most egregious.
I think you can spank/hit without turning it into a beat-down. Or not (hit, at all). I think there is more than one way to skin that cat.