If we'd just treat people the same across the board, we'd do a whole lot better, even understanding that there will always be a subset of the population that holds racist views. If the individuals that are using WP as an excuse for their crappy lives would spend the same effort trying to make their lives better, they'd be a whole lot better off.
Disagree away, I welcome it.
I think the heart of our disagreement is in the above. I don't want fairness. I don't want to pretend like we don't have different races with different stories, because we do. Most importantly, saying "We are all equal, stop making excuses for your crappy life" is the prototypical WP argument. It's the difference between justice and fairness.
Fairness is saying, "Everyone is equal, no matter what happened before now." Justice is saying, "In order to get an equal starting position, some groups need accessions".
Think of it like MMA. Fairness is, "That bell is going to ring, and you're going to fight. These are fair rules", but no weight classes. Heavyweights, you get to fight flyweights. The rules are fair, fight.
Justice is weight classes. The rules are still fair, but we respect that there are inherent disparities between the combatants and we adjust the system for those differences to prevent anyone from starting with an unfair advantage. In each case, I would argue that the system is fair, but in the second case that system is just.
To continue the MMA example, WP would be the heavyweight champ saying, "Why are these flyweights complaining? Yeah they have to fight me, a 275 lb heavyweight, what's the big deal? I have to fight too! The rules are the rules. Stop complaining about your shitty record."
It bears saying that this is obviously just my opinion.
ETA- typing errors cause I am not smart