Having talked about this for a few days and looking at out states do things, I'll lay out what I'd personally like to see the laws look like, as some states (such as
@Marauder06 mentioned about NY) are very expansive at the risk of personal liberties.
Only LEOs should be able to actually file a ERPO (Florida law)
Families cannot file themselves directly, must go through local PD (CO/NY allow direct filing, FL does this method)
People found filing multiple reports should be charged with false filings (I can't find this on the books anywhere, but it should be in writing)
A temp ERPO lasts no more than 14 days (CO law)
Court case for ERPO must occur in 14 days; respondent must be provided legal representation at state cost (CO law)
A full ERPO of 364 days must allow for earlier compliance, through mental health/other requirements set by court (FL law)
A ERPO cannot be extended more than once, i.e. 364 ERPO extended another 364 days (FL law)
Respondent's personal property must be stored at government cost; any lost property use be replaced at 3x market value (CO law first part, second part is what I'd like to see to prevent "lost" property")
Respondent has right to give property to friend/family authorized to have weapons (CO law)
Respondent DOES NOT have to undergo background check to recieve property back (CO law currently requires that; this is bullshit)
Police MAY NOT execute search warrant/charge respondent with crime unrelated to the terms of the ERPO (As NY law currently allows)
If respondent refuses to comply with temporary ERPO, respondent is entitled to immedate court proceeding in regards to ERPO (I can't find this as a law anywhere, but this absolutely should be to address the concerns raised)
Edit to add-
I don't have an answer for what to do if someone refuses to respond to a final ERPO (you had the court case and were ordered to turn over weapons)
I think that's going to have to vary on what your state says about threats/mental crisis.
Is what caused the ERPO something that rises to the level of a crime/forced medical stay? Something lesser?
It feels like the ERPO shouldn't be a low standard, but more of a "hey, your threats rise to the level of criminal charges, but we're going the civil route instead while we get you help/let you cool off" not "you said some mean things so we want your guns, but if you don't give them to us we're gonna charge you with (felony/misdemeanor/fines)."